Distraction Technique
Am leeching off dear friend Neil’s wi-fi as the ‘incredibly generous person’ near me who had an open connection got wise and closed it. Wise person… grrrr… Anywho.
There is wrestling on the TV which disturbs me. There are men bitching at each other like two old ladies. This is the oddest place I have posted in… and my mind is blank. I think this will take forever to write.
Relationships. That’s what the conversation is about. Re-la-tion-ships. Yep. There’s a conversation I am really good at. (Any of you laughing are getting a glare… and then an embarrassed nod.)…
Currently about how many degrees of separation is sensible between ex- and current. A friend of your ex is okay, but a best friend is a no. The best is the bit which is important because, says one, your current girlfriend has to have someone they can talk to about you… because your ex can never talk to your current girlfriend. One was telling about the ’scariest moment of his life’ – the moment his current girlfriend admitted knowing his ex… so it’s not really the ‘best’… it’s the friend… (See bloke’s change their minds too)…
The other bloke – yes, in a heartbeat.
I put forward ‘would you go out with a friend of a friend of your ex?’
At first it was a straight yes from one… buuuuuuut, oooo, chinese whispers of information would get through and would this be worse? There is the thing that excuses can be made easily, ’she’s crazy – it never happened like that’…
Ex’s sister? Yep.
Ex’s mother and all other age appropriate female relatives? (Yes from one) The other umm-ed and argh-ed about it – it apparently depends on how close they are. (Not how closely related they are, how close friends they are).
Would the men here go out with their best friend’s ex? Yes, yes, yes. There is an element of violence (this started a one up – you’d never be able to hurt me thing which was quite funny) coming from their best friend that they would have to deal with… and also an element of comparison… buuuuut if she was a supermodel and his best friend was on the other side of the world it wouldn’t matter.
The supermodel clause apparently overrules everything.
And because I like to torture them (and my mind was still blank) – who is the most attractive woman in the world? Eliza Dushku as the first straight answer from ‘depends guy’ (whereas we all know it’s Katherine Heigl)… The one who said yes to sleeping with anyone said “there is no such thing as the most attractive woman in the world – every woman is beautiful in her own way” which simultaneously made me go awwwww and throw up a little. Mind you he said this while playing Battle for Middle Earth 2.
Both men are single. Both men have complicated ex- lives. Both men need help… A little…
The reason why I posted all this is because I have been watching too much CNN and freaking out about So-Cal and all you guys who live there. I am hoping, wishing, praying that you are all okay… The news is really scary. I shouldn’t be allowed to watch the news channels.
[tags] mind of man, degrees of separation, [/tags]
We are ALL okay!!! Except that I haven’t been able to get hold of Lia yet, and that worries me. She’s not over there with you, is she?
Hilly and I both had power outages and mucho smoke, but no nearby flames. Icky, icky air for a few days.
Since I am married to the brother of my “first,” obviously I think pretty much anything of a non-incestual nature is OK in relationships. Because you don’t get to pick who your heart needs.
Big hugs from So-Cal!!!
I made it throuh the fires okay. Let me know about Edinburgh. And let me know if you didn’t GET my email about Edinburgh.
There is one additional rule. You can’t go out with anyone a best friend has expressed an interest in going out with.